Working Moms - Zonked
News flash - full-time professional moms carry the mental checklists of bringing up baby; many dads, however, believe they do equal duty. A NYT article by Claire Cain Miller (11/5/15-The Upshot) cites polling research and books, new and old.
The Second Shift by Arlie Russel Hochschild in 1989 is still relevant - one fascinating finding is that couples will tell themselves they are sharing the heavy lifting, to establish a storyline they can both live with. Although one woman in this article was quick to disagree with her husband's equality assertion.
When our daughter arrived, someone told my husband "babies and boats don't mix" - casting clouds on our disappearing 'double-income-no kids' fun lifestyle. 30 years later, I've come to believe babies and ambitious work are evil twins. (As are any caregiving duties.) Business anxiety about profits and deadlines push babies - and moms - up against a wall.
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